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Adoption
Carly Lorenz
Composition & Rhetoric
Prof. Wagner
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11-17-12

Process of Adoption

It is a pretty safe bet to say that everyone knows what adoption is; it is also pretty safe to say that everyone knows, or at least knows of, someone who is adopted. However, I would definitely think twice before that people would know what was involved in the process of adoption. From the time I was a young girl, I have always thought that I would adopt a child, since being an adopted from South Korea. My mother had always told me about the long process it took for me to be adopted. She had always mentioned that adopting a child was for the best, especially from a different country because it would benefit children who are living in an unhappy lifestyle. Even today, as I look to my future and think about the different avenues before me, I still openly consider the prospect of adopting a child. As being an adopted child, growing up was confusing and somewhat hurtful. Knowing I was adopted was not the problem; the problem was always being questioned about why I was adopted and how come I did not look like my mother. I had always felt self-conscious about being in public with my family or if my mother ever came into school. I felt ashamed and afraid of what my friends and other peers would say about me. In the end, I realized that I should not care about what other people think because regardless of what happens, I know my mom will always be there for me; and that is why she adopted me. She cared enough about me to go through the long process of being adopted, that she still cares about me today. I would venture to say that there are many people in the world who have similar feelings about adoption. People who would like to let a needy child into their loving home, but do not know if they would qualify, have any rights, or have to pay a large sum of money. Also, in my mind, I pictured a happy union with a grateful and happy child. I did not contemplate

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